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Post by toetapping on Feb 21, 2018 18:43:00 GMT
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Feb 24, 2018 1:20:57 GMT
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Post by Scottish Lassie on Feb 24, 2018 1:20:57 GMT
I don't plan things, they never work out the way you want it to, i gave that up years ago I had to learn that. Before I would get up in the norning, I would plan my day and just as you said, it didn't go as planned. Because of my mistakes, I even gave myself more work in the end, in order to get everything done that I had planned,which meant that somethings had to wait till the next day. Awful, Awful, Awful.!!!
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Post by Scottish Lassie on Feb 24, 2018 1:27:55 GMT
Surely not? I believe in MIRACLES, so I wouldn't be using up precious time by moving it stone by stone.
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Feb 24, 2018 1:40:22 GMT
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Post by Scottish Lassie on Feb 24, 2018 1:40:22 GMT
I do set goals, but I am flexible. If things don't go as planned than fair enough. Everything works out in the end. We try to get as much work done within a specified time, as really, there is always something that needs to be done. We are always trying to save time,so that we can have more free time, don't you think?
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Post by Scottish Lassie on Feb 24, 2018 2:05:02 GMT
Many people seem to think that setting goals is the way to go, but I found out ages ago that it wasn't for me. I would lie in bed early in the morning . and plan my day, and guess what? for some reason things didn't happen as I had thought it would. I seemed to make one mistake after another. That happened a few times, so I stopped making plans and just did things as I felt impressed to do, and everything worked out fine from that moment on. Interesting, I am not a "planner" as such a just tend to do what I feel like more or less, I certainly don't plan may day really, not unless I have something particular to do, I don't do any "active planning" as such I know what needs to be done. As you say things can change anyway, worse case is you might get run over by a bus early on so all that time planning is wasted! I guess all my planning is done subconsciously really. We all know what needs to be done, we plan to get as much done as possible, so that we have more time to do the things that we really enjoy doing. My personal life was on hold when bringing up my childen. Even though your interaction with your childen is mostly enjoyable, there is always loads of work to be done in relation to life proceeding smoothly and happily for everyone. I was lucky to get 4hrs sleep per night, though I made sure that the children got the right amount of sleep according to their age. Some mothers don't realise this, so keep their children awake up until all hours, then they wonder why their children are stressed out.
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Post by kronks on Feb 24, 2018 6:51:34 GMT
Interesting, I am not a "planner" as such a just tend to do what I feel like more or less, I certainly don't plan may day really, not unless I have something particular to do, I don't do any "active planning" as such I know what needs to be done. As you say things can change anyway, worse case is you might get run over by a bus early on so all that time planning is wasted! I guess all my planning is done subconsciously really. We all know what needs to be done, we plan to get as much done as possible, so that we have more time to do the things that we really enjoy doing. My personal life was on hold when bringing up my childen. Even though your interaction with your childen is mostly enjoyable, there is always loads of work to be done in relation to life proceeding smoothly and happily for everyone. I was lucky to get 4hrs sleep per night, though I made sure that the children got the right amount of sleep according to their age. Some mothers don't realise this, so keep their children awake up until all hours, then they wonder why their children are stressed out. Makes you wonder how the Turpin mother managed, I guess you can understand her chaining her children up on a way! Seriously though it cannot have been easy looking after so many.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 24, 2018 17:02:11 GMT
I do plan my budget each month otherwise you are not successful in money and dont have a clue where it all went, i also make lists if i have to go on trips etc i like to plan stuff
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Feb 26, 2018 6:31:23 GMT
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Post by Scottish Lassie on Feb 26, 2018 6:31:23 GMT
We all know what needs to be done, we plan to get as much done as possible, so that we have more time to do the things that we really enjoy doing. My personal life was on hold when bringing up my childen. Even though your interaction with your childen is mostly enjoyable, there is always loads of work to be done in relation to life proceeding smoothly and happily for everyone. I was lucky to get 4hrs sleep per night, though I made sure that the children got the right amount of sleep according to their age. Some mothers don't realise this, so keep their children awake up until all hours, then they wonder why their children are stressed out. Makes you wonder how the Turpin mother managed, I guess you can understand her chaining her children up on a way! Seriously though it cannot have been easy looking after so many. I don"t understand why she needed to chain up any of her children unless ofcourse they were trying to escape from the house and the conditions that prevailed.
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Post by kronks on Feb 26, 2018 6:49:08 GMT
Makes you wonder how the Turpin mother managed, I guess you can understand her chaining her children up on a way! Seriously though it cannot have been easy looking after so many. I don"t understand why she needed to chain up any of her children unless ofcourse they were trying to escape from the house and the conditions that prevailed. I think she used to chain them up as a punishment for wrong doing. As they were not allowed out of the house much I guess there are only so many punishment options especially as they seemed to live a very restricted life anyway, ie they did not have many thing to take away. So it is either physical punishment of restricting movement in the house really I guess. At least it is non-violent. I do not know the extent or frequency of it, the newspaper reports are pretty vague. One girl had ran away in the past, if your children were running away, what other options do you have?? The trial should be interesting but I think it is a long way off. The children seem to have turned out to be real nice people whatever went on in the house. Do they get credit for that? I don't think they will! The boy got great grades in school and one girl has written over 140 songs apparently. So it is not all bad. It is not as if one shot up a school and killed 17 people!
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Feb 26, 2018 6:50:30 GMT
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Post by Scottish Lassie on Feb 26, 2018 6:50:30 GMT
We all know what needs to be done, we plan to get as much done as possible, so that we have more time to do the things that we really enjoy doing. My personal life was on hold when bringing up my childen. Even though your interaction with your childen is mostly enjoyable, there is always loads of work to be done in relation to life proceeding smoothly and happily for everyone. I was lucky to get 4hrs sleep per night, though I made sure that the children got the right amount of sleep according to their age. Some mothers don't realise this, so keep their children awake up until all hours, then they wonder why their children are stressed out. Makes you wonder how the Turpin mother managed, I guess you can understand her chaining her children up on a way! Seriously though it cannot have been easy looking after so many. In a normal home, older children help with the younger children everyone works towards the running of the home. They all have their own little jobs to do, even making their own beds and learning not to throw rubbish on the floor, but to put it in the bin.my Mother made all these chores fun. I was happy to help and so were my children. Love was missing from that household, without a doubt.
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Feb 26, 2018 6:55:32 GMT
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Post by Scottish Lassie on Feb 26, 2018 6:55:32 GMT
I don"t understand why she needed to chain up any of her children unless ofcourse they were trying to escape from the house and the conditions that prevailed. I think she used to chain them up as a punishment for wrong doing. As they were not allowed out of the house much I guess there are only so many punishment options especially as they seemed to live a very restricted life anyway, ie they did not have many thing to take away. So it is either physical punishment of restricting movement in the house really I guess. At least it is non-violent. I do not know the extent or frequency of it, the newspaper reports are pretty vague. One girl had ran away in the past, if your children were running away, what other options do you have?? The trial should be interesting but I think it is a long way off. The children seem to have turned out to be real nice people whatever went on in the house. Do they get credit for that? I don't think they will! The boy got great grades in school and one girl has written over 140 songs apparently. So it is not all bad. It is not as if one shot up a school and killed 17 people! Normal childen have plenty to say, these childen were turned into submissive fear ridden creatures.
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Post by kronks on Feb 26, 2018 6:58:53 GMT
Makes you wonder how the Turpin mother managed, I guess you can understand her chaining her children up on a way! Seriously though it cannot have been easy looking after so many. In a normal home, older children help with the younger children everyone works towards the running of the home. They all have their own little jobs to do, even making their own beds and learning not to throw rubbish on the floor, but to put it in the bin.my Mother made all these chores fun. I was happy to help and so were my children. Love was missing from that household, without a doubt. I think that is what did happen actually, it is the only way they could have managed so it makes me wonder about a lot of stuff such as them not being able to look after themselves as adults etc.... There seems to have been a lot of love between the children, they did not want to be split up but they were anyway. That is another thing that bothers me, if the authorities cared so much about their well being why did they split them up, the even got rid of their dogs too! That seems a bit mean, plus the adults are not allowed to live independently, which they wanted to do apparently. So a lot of things do not make sense to me, they don't have much freedom now and are effectively prisoners of the authorities, I wonder what would happen if one ran away? Would they bring them back and chain them up lol? I think a lot of kids are happy to help out ie us boys helping our dad do stuff, although we were not so keen on washing up and tidying rooms (I'm still not lol!!).
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Post by kronks on Feb 26, 2018 7:01:48 GMT
I think she used to chain them up as a punishment for wrong doing. As they were not allowed out of the house much I guess there are only so many punishment options especially as they seemed to live a very restricted life anyway, ie they did not have many thing to take away. So it is either physical punishment of restricting movement in the house really I guess. At least it is non-violent. I do not know the extent or frequency of it, the newspaper reports are pretty vague. One girl had ran away in the past, if your children were running away, what other options do you have?? The trial should be interesting but I think it is a long way off. The children seem to have turned out to be real nice people whatever went on in the house. Do they get credit for that? I don't think they will! The boy got great grades in school and one girl has written over 140 songs apparently. So it is not all bad. It is not as if one shot up a school and killed 17 people! Normal childen have plenty to say, these childen were turned into submissive fear ridden creatures. You would not think that from the photographs, the all looked pretty happy really, especially the younger ones. I'd like to hear stuff directly from the children mouths rather than via the police/authorities. Also a lot of kids live in fear of being punished by their parents I think.
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Feb 26, 2018 8:32:22 GMT
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Post by Scottish Lassie on Feb 26, 2018 8:32:22 GMT
In a normal home, older children help with the younger children everyone works towards the running of the home. They all have their own little jobs to do, even making their own beds and learning not to throw rubbish on the floor, but to put it in the bin.my Mother made all these chores fun. I was happy to help and so were my children. Love was missing from that household, without a doubt. I think that is what did happen actually, it is the only way they could have managed so it makes me wonder about a lot of stuff such as them not being able to look after themselves as adults etc.... There seems to have been a lot of love between the children, they did not want to be split up but they were anyway. That is another thing that bothers me, if the authorities cared so much about their well being why did they split them up, the even got rid of their dogs too! That seems a bit mean, plus the adults are not allowed to live independently, which they wanted to do apparently. So a lot of things do not make sense to me, they don't have much freedom now and are effectively prisoners of the authorities, I wonder what would happen if one ran away? Would they bring them back and chain them up lol? I think a lot of kids are happy to help out ie us boys helping our dad do stuff, although we were not so keen on washing up and tidying rooms (I'm still not lol!!). These children are very sick, so it will take a long time for them to become what we consider a state of normalcy if ever. Leave it to the experts, they really know what they are doing, even though you mightn't think so.
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Feb 26, 2018 10:14:06 GMT
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Post by Scottish Lassie on Feb 26, 2018 10:14:06 GMT
Normal childen have plenty to say, these childen were turned into submissive fear ridden creatures. You would not think that from the photographs, the all looked pretty happy really, especially the younger ones. I'd like to hear stuff directly from the children mouths rather than via the police/authorities. Also a lot of kids live in fear of being punished by their parents I think. When there is love in the home there is no need to chain children to their beds. Children naturally want to please their parents so are obedient.
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Post by kronks on Feb 27, 2018 3:58:16 GMT
I think that is what did happen actually, it is the only way they could have managed so it makes me wonder about a lot of stuff such as them not being able to look after themselves as adults etc.... There seems to have been a lot of love between the children, they did not want to be split up but they were anyway. That is another thing that bothers me, if the authorities cared so much about their well being why did they split them up, the even got rid of their dogs too! That seems a bit mean, plus the adults are not allowed to live independently, which they wanted to do apparently. So a lot of things do not make sense to me, they don't have much freedom now and are effectively prisoners of the authorities, I wonder what would happen if one ran away? Would they bring them back and chain them up lol? I think a lot of kids are happy to help out ie us boys helping our dad do stuff, although we were not so keen on washing up and tidying rooms (I'm still not lol!!). These children are very sick, so it will take a long time for them to become what we consider a state of normalcy if ever. Leave it to the experts, they really know what they are doing, even though you mightn't think so. I don't know from what I have seen of the they seem to be in pretty good shape and a lot of people speak highly of them. I think some of the reports about them maybe being exaggerated. They need to do that to get a conviction. The blame the parents for the kids apparently having barely seen a tooth brush, however they all seem to have pretty good teeth. I don't believe they are that sick I'd like to have seen them myself being interviewed etc.... but we are not allowed to see, we only have the word of the authorities, who are biased in the matter.
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Post by kronks on Feb 27, 2018 3:59:46 GMT
You would not think that from the photographs, the all looked pretty happy really, especially the younger ones. I'd like to hear stuff directly from the children mouths rather than via the police/authorities. Also a lot of kids live in fear of being punished by their parents I think. When there is love in the home there is no need to chain children to their beds. Children naturally want to please their parents so are obedient. Yes well nobody is perfect and I think the chaining thing may be exaggerated, we will have to wait and see the trial I guess.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2018 1:27:56 GMT
I do set goals, but I am flexible. If things don't go as planned than fair enough. Everything works out in the end. We try to get as much work done within a specified time, as really, there is always something that needs to be done. We are always trying to save time,so that we can have more free time, don't you think? It's because I have such a busy and full life that I need to get goals and be able to manage my time. So, yes, I can get some free time for myself!
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Post by toetapping on Jan 14, 2020 23:48:14 GMT
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Post by Big Lin on Jan 15, 2020 0:34:38 GMT
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